Here’s the final post of the notes Dani used to teach with me on Authority in Marriage. Today she’s answer: Is submission worth it? If you’ve missed any of the posts, they can all be found here:
I know a lot of women may feel like they need to be the spiritual leaders in their family and relationship because their husband doesn’t really believe in God or he may not have a growing, personal relationship with Him. The Bible actually tells us exactly what to do in that situation.
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives. — 1 Peter 3:1-2
WOW! Can you say that you treat your husband with the kind of respect that would show him how much Jesus really loves him everyday? Ladies, your husbands desire to be adored by you…you need to love him like Jesus loves. You be Jesus and let God be God.
If you struggle with this, with authority in marriage, I want to give you a place to start: Ask God to change your thought life.
The next time you are faced with that feeling like “there is no way this man is suppose to lead me,” you know how the little things just dig deep…like when you see the cereal bowl sitting in the sink and you think WHY??? and your mind starts to make that list of the ways your husband drives you crazy. Stop yourself. Focus on what he does well. Even if it’s a small thing, dwell on that and thank God for it! You’ll be amazed how your heart will change towards your husband if you change your thoughts.
Ladies, I want you to know you will not be able to do this alone. You will have to be in prayer about this and ask God to change your heart towards this issue AND your husband. But I can PROMISE God is ready and able take your relationship to the next level if you do!