I know this one sounds simple, but it’s so crucial. The closer you are to your wife, the farther away you are from making a mistake.
After your relationship with Jesus, your relationship with your wife is the most important relationship in your life and many of us need to do a better job acting like it. We need to continue to date our wives, love them, support them, talk to them and treat them like our best friends.
To end the week, here are some tips to keeping the bond strong with your wife:
- Talk to her. A lot. Tell her what’s going on in your life, what’s going well and what’s not. If there’s a new person at work that is a little too friendly, tell your wife. Keep her in the loop. Communication helps her feel like she’s a part of your life and assures her you’re on the same team.
- Date her. Often. Just because she said “I do” doesn’t mean you should stop wooing her. Take her out, bring her flowers, do the laundry, clean the dishes . . . whatever it takes to make her feel loved. It’s pretty hard to chase someone else if you’re still chasing your wife.
- Have sex. Lots of it. I think I just got your attention! Sex is God’s gift to married couples and is meant to increase intimacy. It builds and maintains emotional bounds like nothing else. Oftentimes affairs arise out of a need to have intimacy somewhere, because it’s not happening at home. And by the way, if you are working really hard at numbers 1 and 2 on the this list, you’ll find that number 3 is much easier to keep as well.
- Make Jesus the center of BOTH your lives. Pray together, worship together, serve together. Marriage was designed by God and only works when he is at the center of it.
I hope this has been helpful, I know it has for me. If you’re struggling in this area, please take a bold step here to fight for your marriage. Tell someone you’re struggling and ask them to pray for you. If you want, email me. I’ll pray for you. Or we can just talk.
Just know that you’re not above falling, neither am I. If we want to run the race God set out, we have to work at it.
Have a great weekend.